Your mind and heart need to build a relationship slowly, somewhat like a pet and its master.
At first, your mind needs to hold your heart tightly on a leash. Your heart screams, “I must have this! I must go there!” And your mind says, “Calm down. We talked this over already and we both agreed you don’t need to.”
The heart screams, “But now I feel I need to! If I don’t, who knows what will happen!”
And the mind says, “That’s because you are a heart. Hearts feel that way. But I am a mind and I know we will survive even if you don’t.”
Eventually, the heart learns the paths and gallops along them with ease. It becomes a mindful heart.